He put a ring on ME!! {EXTREMELY LATE POST!}

This is an extremely late post!!!!!! Sorriii *Covers Face* We have been married for about a year now.

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I got engaged on February 15, 10:20pm, no i dint check the time but na wetin dem tell me be dat. It was quite unexpected and i was so surprised i teared up!

This is our proposal and relationship story, i was able to get my fiance (now my husband) to record his side of the proposal{planning, etc.).
But first here's our story for your reading pleasure :D Enjoy!

OUR STORY by Me

I met Moh for the first time in University in the year '06/'07 i guess, i can't quite recall precisely, i remember our meeting vividly though, i was standing at the walkway to Dorcas Hall and he was with a couple of my friends and we got introduced. I did not think much of our meeting asides 'oh he's cute' and then i totally forgot about him. The next time we bumped into each other was during our Youth Service @ a friend's house in '08, we exchanged yahoo messenger IDs, started chatting, nothing serious and that's how our friendship started. We decided to take our friendship to the next level 'relationship' towards the ending of the year '12. We had our Introduction in Nov '13 and he Proposed (mostly for formality though 'cos we already knew we were getting married after the Introduction and to present me my gorgeous Emerald ring!-which is what i've always wanted) on 15th Feb '14 at a small surprise dinner he organized with my friends @Nkoyo Restaurant. I was pleasantly surprised that he put effort into the proposal and did not go with a cliche Valentine's day proposal. Moh is definitely my soulmate, seriously, i'm not being cheeky, i can be a lot of work to deal with honestly but he can handle me and gets me on so many different levels! We have had and will still have our occasional quarrels but i think that just spices up our relationship :) and teaches us more about one another. He found a post from my Formspring i answered on my blog sometime in '10 (which i had totally forgotten about *btw) and the question was 'If you could make one person fall in love with you who would it be?' and i wrote Zakir (a part of his name). I honestly don't know why i did 'cos we weren't close friends at the time, just chatting on yahoo messenger (the BBM of our time. lol). I guess it's a sign that he was mine all along and we just had to wait for God's timing.
DISCLAIMER: There is definitely wayyyy more to our story than this and it involves some snubbing, quarrelling and other not so cute stuff but the Hubby has made me promise not to add these details, as much i'd love to, so bear with me. Bottom line, as rosey as our story reads, don't forget roses gat thorns and they prick and hurt, lol, things aren't always so 'petally' even after marriage.

OUR STORY by Le Boo

Hmmm…..

Just like she said, I met Tosin on my way to her Hostel. Yeah, we got introduced but I was really in a hurry and didn’t really pay attention to her.

I thought that was the last I'd see of her only to see her again at a friend’s house. We had a really nice conversation so we exchanged contact details. I discovered that I always enjoyed chatting with her and before I knew it, we became good friends. It was the start of a glorious friendship I must say.

After a couple of years, one day I stopped to think about how close we had become over the years and I decided to take our friendship to the next level and I’ve had no regrets ever since.

We had our Introduction sometime in November 2013 and in February 2014 I proposed. Most people usually start with the proposal first but I’m a very weird guy and I think that’s part of why she loves me. I do the strangest things.

Everytime I look at Tosin I can see how much I’ve been blessed. She completes me in ways I cannot explain. Mehn… She’s the woman for me. I don’t know where she was hiding all those years but all I can say is that God’s time is the best.

THE PROPOSAL

MY Side

Like i said earlier in my side of the story, we had our Introduction in Nov '13. 

Spot d 3 key planners close to me

The proposal happened @Nkoyo Restaurant on 15th Feb '14 around 10:20pm at a small surprise dinner le boo organized with my friends  (Yoee, Naeemah and Dr. F being the major planners).
 I was pleasantly surprised that he put effort into the proposal and did not go with a cliche Valentine's day proposal. We had a regular day, i saw him earlier in the day and told him i was going for Dr. F's dinner party later to celebrate her graduation from culinary school. Lemme backtrack a bit, on Thursday evening, 13th Feb,

@Uptown wen Dr. F called to invite me to 'the dinner party'

Dr. F had called me up to invite me to her dinner party, at the time i was having dinner with le boo and his bro @Uptown. I thought it was a bit odd that she was not making the meals to show off her newly acquired skill and opted for us eating out instead but i dismissed the thought, just happy to get some free nice eats. lol. Le boo spoke to her to congratulate her as well and then asked if his bro n friend could come along and she said yes, again i felt it was very odd for him to make that request because it's totally unlike him.
On the day of the proposal itself which was a Saturday, i was at Yoee's house chilling 'cos we had a girls' night out the night before so some of our other friends were still at her place. They were all on my case to do something about my hair (it was in its natural and wild state) before going for the dinner. I told them i honestly couldn't be bothered since it wasn't my party and worst case scenario i'd tie a scarf, but they just kept going on about the hair, that's when i started to suspect something was up. Next weird thing was Yoee insisted on me picking a particular outfit to wear for the dinner, it happened to be a lovely dress i'd used for a friend's bridal train. I like the dress but i felt it was over the top to wear to someone's dinner party and i did not want to be overdressed or outshine the host, when i told her she dismissed the thought and told me everyone was dressing fancy so i should have no fear of standing out. Moh stopped by my house as well and we jisted a bit and he also checked out my outfit and approved it before i went back to Yoee's
Anyways, we went back to her place and chilled and i dozed off at some point, I woke up to see 2 missed calls from le boo and called back, he gave me attitude and said he'd been calling and why did i not pick and then said he was no longer interested in going to the dinner. I had already explained i was asleep when he called so his reaction did not make sense to me, i said fine, he did not have to come and i was going regardless. I later found out my friends forced him to pick a fight with me to throw me off suspecting the proposal 'cos they know i'm sharp like that.lol. Yoee and I dressed up for the dinner and she helped straighten my hair and put it in a bun (very tasking job i tell ya!) and we waited for the call from the host that she was at the venue so we could head down there. While waiting Yoee kept receiving calls and kept saying it was from Pauline (another friend) that she wanted to know our movement so she could join us there, Truth was the call was from le boo trying to find out the state of things.
Finally we got the call from the host and headed down to the venue, we got there really late, around 10pm and while we were making the U-turn to enter the venue, i spotted le boo's car (i know the plate no.) parked in a somewhat hidden corner. Thoughts started running through my head, i knew the ring had arrived earlier on but kept saying to myself 'he wouldn't propose at somebody else's dinner party and steal their shine, although Dr. F and Naeemah have been on his case to put a ring on me since we had our intro so dey wouldn't mind', i had absolutely no clue that the dinner party had been organized for me just for the purpose of the proposal. *blushh. I had also spoken to his bro after my phone fight with le boo to confirm that they were really not coming for the dinner and he told me they weren't and they were heading to his house already.

wen i was totally clueless a proposal was coming

Imagine my surprise when i had settled down and was jisting with my friends, when le boo, his bro and one of close friends Dj walked in and joined the table. The photographer at the dinner was also our friend Tolu Cole and i kept saying it's a small world that he knew my other friends unknown to me that such was not the case, i said hi to him and he acted professional so i gave him some space since he was 'on duty'. I knew in my heart of hearts that he was going to propose but put aside the thought after all it was not my dinner party. He asked me to step aside and settle our phone fight from earlier, i obliged him and it just felt odd, standing aside from the dinner table. I told him we could settle the fight when we were alone and that i was feeling awkward, everytime i tried to move back to the table, he'd stop me from even glancing there.

our step aside to settle the fake fight

He called my full name and told me how much he loved me and by now my heart is overpumping 'cos i could just sense it that the proposal was coming plus now the photographer was taking pictures of us and that did not make sense too me. Next thing the lights go dim in only our section and from the corner of my eye i spy the waiter going to the table with something fancy. I knew it was my ring, he then led me towards the table that we could go back and have our seats. The lights come up and i see a black box on a bed of red petals in a white plate, my heart stopped as he took out the ring and went on one knee, my head was fuzzy, i could hear my friends shouting and clapping and then i remembered i was wearing a huge green and gold ring on the finger le boo was gonna put his ring.,lmao!!

spot my massive green ring that tried to steal the shine

I discretely struggled and freed my finger of the ring so he could place my REAL ring there. I can't even remember what he asked me while kneeling or if i said yes, all i remember i pulling him up to hug and kiss him while tears filled my eyes.
{My friend's later made fun of me that they thought i was a hard babe and there would be no tears in sight during the proposal, they are lucky they did not bet on that. :)}.
I wiped the tears as they brought out a cake with pyro fireworks sparkling. We cut the cake and i went round to hug, beat (in a friendly manner) and thank my friends as they filled me in on the whole planning process and their roles in it. It was quite fun and even though i kinda suspected it would happen, it still hit me hard, i wouldn't have had it any other way + we had food and cake to take away!! lol #diehardfoodie.

 

Le boo had always told me not to expect anything ghen gehn when he's presenting me my ring despite my LOUD hints (showing him vids on youtube amidst others) that i wanted something ghen ghen. lol. I love and appreciate that he put in such an effort to present me my ring in such a romantic manner that i'll forever cherish and that he involved my friends and got a photographer to capture the moment. It was a complete package.
*By the way, he had let me pick out the ring wayyyyy before it arrived 'cos he knew i wanted something unique and wanted me to have something i would love. I perused the web and settled on an Emerald ring (as a lover of all things green) with an Emerald cut and some diamonds around it.

HIS Side

Listen to the audio recording and Enjoy. (It was a tug of war getting him to record this in detail). The recording was made on Sunday night, 23rd Feb '14.

I hope you enjoyed this post. It was a lovely experience and i'm happy to share it here though long overdue.

Toodles!XooX

Melissa's Proposal (OCT 18, 2012)

Soo one of my really close friends got a ring put on it last month!!!Whoop!! Whoop!! Lol ...Y'all know I got too much energy and I’m a drama queen...*shining teeth.
Ok but seriously, all my people are getting hooked o!! Is it that it’s that time or we r are getting old though or we are in that phase where it’s time for those in our age bracket to get hooked? I think it’s most likely the Latter, but what do I know? Loll
First it was my cousin Funsho, then Mel, then my close friend’s younger sis Lily and so on… Funsho had put up a studio pic of her and her bf earlier that week and trust me to quiz her if he was ‘the one’ and all that and before u know it, the question was popped and a ring was put on it. Lily’s was tres tres romantic!! My kinda dream proposal, beachside things and all, lemme not divert from the topic though which is Mel’s proposal. Here’s the link to the details of Lily’s proposal for anyone dats interested http://chipsonmarble.wordpress.com/

PicMix

That said I have sooooo soooo many weddings to attend it’s got me dizzy, I got like 3 in December and 2 in January already. Mel’s own is scheduled for March and it’s the first wedding I plan to distribute souvenirs to the friends & guests. I’m super duper excited! lol. Antonia and I are already working on unique/useful souvenirs I can get at an affordable price. I’m helping Mel with the wedding plans in my lil capacity, ‘cos planning ahead is definitely the best way to save money and not end up a Bridezilla and overstressed. We have made a list of things she has to get/pick in order of priority, such as her color, Aso-ebi (family’s attire/friend’s attire), catering, the hall, guest list etc. and I gave her the link to my Pinterest board (which has loads of other wedding links pinned there) and YouTube wedding vlogs, Wedding planning sites, Wedding gown sites, Facebook Wedding pages such as Wedding Digest Nigeria, etc. I also lent her a book on Christian marriage one of my friend’s had given me and she’s undergoing counselling with her bf fiancé at church (we afterall need wisdom from the wise and those who have gained experience on the road we wanna travel, in order to chart our own course and have a smooth ride even though we youths may think we know it all and can have happier lives than our parents, I think we should be big enough to admit that we can learn a lot from them ‘cos at some point too, they also felt they knew it all). How come I have all these links u may ask, make una free me o!! and yes I’m a BellaNaija wedding page addict too  but I have no delusions of grandeur though, I just check them out to see how I can incorporate some of the ideas into my own wedding and work with my budget when the time comes. Y’all know by now how much I love weddings esp. traditional weddings and I like to keep something like an online diary of things I like for future purpose and for friends too :D . You can check out my wedding Pinterest board http://pinterest.com/jemimahnaa/weddings/ for ideas for ur occasion or just for entertainment purposes, it’s up to u. I believe the main thing is to have a vivid picture of the desired outcome for the wedding, which will make planning pretty easy and straight-forward. I wish her all the best and can’t wait for the date to be here and I send her off to her hubby’s house. *sob sob, ok ignore me!! lol, these are happy sobs.  *btw my birthday is around the corner December 23 to be precise, I have absolutely no clue what I’m gonna do or if I’m gonna do anything sef. I got mixed feelings about it ‘cos I’m getting older and all that, then again I’m thankful to God for keeping me alive to celebrate another birthday/Christmas. Ok now back to Mel’s proposal before I veer off topic again.

MELISSA’ PROPOSAL

This is the account of the proposal according to Mel (after much prodding 4rm my humble self), Charles and with my spicy writing skills of course! Lol. Enjoy…

Love wantintin

It happened on a cold Thursday evening, October 18, 2012, 9:18pm @Cafe Bunna in the Silverbird Galleria, Abuja to be precise. Charles had closed from work earlier than usual and went to Mel’s place to pick her, he was waiting for her downstairs when it began to drizzle, luckily Mel dint do too much making up & girly stuff and hopped into the car just in time. Melissa was dressed very casually as she felt it was one of their normal evening outings, she wore a red top and greyish pants and packed her braided hair loosely to the side while playing with them with her manicured red nails (thank God dey were manicured! haha). Charles on the other hand, as the mastermind of the whole surprise proposal was appropriately dressed for the occasion, clad in a black suit and pants with a white shirt beneath it. Melissa ordered the ‘caramel marvel latte’ while Charles ordered the ‘very vanilla latte’. They were talking about practically everything!! From politics, current affairs to business & entertainment (they too like gist). They started reminiscing on old times, where they met, how they got talking, the journey so far and all that mushy stuff. He excused himself to go to the gents and Mel noticed he spoke to one of the waiters on his way back, she thought he had asked for their bill since they were done with their croissants and coffee. He bumped into a friend who was about leaving the café and they spoke for a bit before he returned to the table, they continued their conversation and then he asked Mel when she was sure he was ‘The One’, she smiled and asked him if she was sure. They had a good laugh ‘bout the response as Mel likes to joke ‘bout such sometimes. Mel asked him how he knew she was ‘The One’ and he told her their 1st official date had confirmed it, he said ‘official date’ ‘cos they had been buddies for years, and he had been her confidant and adviser. He had always teased her that she’ll end up with him and she had always liked his personality as he is a very strong and chivalrous guy. She would always tell him to dream on (hmm…if only she knew his dreams would come true), fortunately, our words are more powerful than we think. He went on about how she completes his Life, how she makes him a very happy man and that he would not want to lose all that. Melissa was just smiling (like an otondo of course ‘cos her head don swell so tey e wan burst...lol...ok seriously lets continue) ‘cos he always tells her such sweet things and how much she means to him. The waiter brought what Mel thought was d bill which was neatly n beautifully wrapped, she was too engrossed in their gist to ask when the café changed their bill wrap and then Charles told the waiter to take their pix under the guise that they hadn't taken a picture together in ages. The waiter took the pics and they carried on with their gist. ------->>>>Mel noticed that he had suddenly become nervous and somewhat unsettled, her heart started racing and she didn’t even know why she was feeling that way. She was checking the pics the waiter had taken them when Charles said 'Baby can I ask you something?' She was still looking at the pics the waiter took (this Mel sef too like pishure! she no even code, trust me na, I for don code as a sharp girl. abeg just ignore me and my proudness…lol) and dint even look @ him, she just told him to shoot the question and the next minute all she could remember was a sentence with ....... marry me? (we gats confirm this question from Charles o! what if he was asking if Mel knows whether I will marry him and Mel thought he was asking her to marry him and in the whole confusion he had to just give her the ring and carry on the charade so she won’t be hurt. yeah right!! Me and this my active imagination ehn. oya continue reading o) that was when my friend’s brain clicked o, hallelujah!! and she dropped the phone to look @ him with those her big ‘I can see into ur soul’ brown eyes. He was already on one knee with the ring in his hand (as a sharp guy). She kept thinking OMG! OMG!! OMG!!! and couldn’t find her words (this is what Michael Jackson was talking about in that ‘Speechless’ song o) she was speechless, tongue tied but of course one part of her brain still functioned well enough for her to give him her hand and he slipped the ring on it (He liked it and he put a ring on it! That’s what Beyoncé and I are talking about :D) and dint want 2 stand up (this Charles sef ehn! baba nla drama king!). She helped him up and hugged him tightly for only God knows how long (time can so like to stand still in such moments!!). She dint even know where her lips went, whether na neck abi na lips, and that was when she remembered she had not even answered the question (yepaa!! no wonder the guy no wan stand up), she shouted YES! YES!! YES!!! Always & Forever! (Awwwwww).

Pic in the car of her ring (I can’t imagine how she was feeling on the ride home, me I go just dey smile like mumu if na me)

CHARLES SIDE OF THE STORY

That's exactly how it happened (oko iyawo,trust him to concur with his woman)....I was so clouded that I didn't notice people were actually watching the drama and taking pictures 'cause i was so preoccupied with what her response to my proposal will be. *smile* I woke up when some dude behind her was clapping. I actually wore the jacket just to conceal the box of the ring.....I was surprised she didn't ask why I was wearing the jacket because it wasn't a formal outing and even if it was, I was just leaving the office and I'd usually leave my jacket in the car anytime we are out. The waiter actually brought the ring in earlier than I wanted 'cos I wasn't done with the talking...he placed it on the table and I noticed her gaze went straight to the plate covered with a bowl. I tried distracting her from it by maintaining eye contact but she kept going back to it. So I mumbled "oh is this a new way of bringing bills"? (so he planted that thought in her head...hmmm.nice save) and I guess it helped a little in distracting her. Summarily I opened the cover and she stared at the flower like box. I remembered playing with the flower (box) to ease the tension a little before taking the giant step. *smile*.... Awwwww

What could be better than this Mel is engaged to her best friend and he had planned the proposal he felt she'd love as a lady. When he dropped her off at home and they got talking that night was when he told her he had been carrying the ring around for about a week waiting to accomplish that memorable proposal!  It was the perfect moment and he seized it. According to Melissa “I am happy! I love him and he adores me! May God help us! :D Amen!’

INFORMING THE GALFRIENDS

She of course promptly sent us (eju, chide & I) pics of the occasion. I was having ice cream and pancakes (yes I have a sweet tooth, leave me o!) with 2 of my friends @d time and let out an excited scream before proceeding to tell them why I screamed and then promptly changed my DP to the pics she had sent and my PM to read ‘Congrats Mel’ on my Blackberry (don’t you just love technology? I sure do :D). We had ice cream and waffles with Mel that weekend @Dunes to get the full jist of the proposal and gawk @her ring. 

Mel's already flaunting her ring..lol..smh

We were all so excited for her, though me I wasn’t surprised, to be honest I had seen it coming. They had been friends for a long while and he had been her run to confidant whenever she had issues with her bfs exes then. When they got closer and she started calling his name ever so often during our jists, I told her they’d end up together, she just laughed it off, rat...lol. I don’t mean to brag but these things are usually obvious to everyone else except the person involved (maybe not everyone) but they are obvious to me regarding my friends. It was obvious he really cares about her and makes her happy. Oh and by the way this is not even her ‘the main, the main ring’ o, the bobo just couldn’t wait for that one to come from overseas (obodoyinbo in Igbo accent) before making her his woman (*shining teeth, I like the sound of that ‘his woman’). I am glad they ended up together, I wish them all the best in life and I can’t wait to see my friend with her hot shape in her wedding gown exchanging vows @d altar! I mean this is the day and event we (the friends) have talked about for centuries! (Ok, maybe not centuries, but u catch ma drift) I hope I don’t cry though ‘cos I can get emotional over these kinda things. Till then, God keep us…

Toodles!XooX

Congrats my darl. This is my souvenir pic by the way  :D