Our Bdays as Hubby & Wifey

My Hubby was born on Dec. 6th while i was born on Dec, 23rd. Last year we celebrated our individual birthdays for the 1st time as a married couple.
Dec 6th- I organized a House Party for hubby for his birthday at our home. We had about 20 friends over with the house prepped with cake, music, food and drinks (soft & alcohol). You all know i love planning parties. I cooked Fried rice, Goat meat peppersoup, Plantain and Peppered Chicken with my friend Ejura helping out (She also baked the birthday cake). There was also Shisha. Sadly i couldn't take pictures 'cos i was so busy. The night was great fun, guys played video games, interesting covos and takeaway food for the guests. It was all a wrap around midnight and time to clean up (the notsofun part) 

Dec 23rd- Hubby made me breakfast in bed to start  my day and then it was responding to calls, messages, social media messages wishing me a happy birthday. He arranged a surprise candlelit dinner for the two of us with my kinda food and wine that was as sweet as i love it, We got all dolled up and enjoyed an intimate time with each other. My friend Talatu came to visit with a nice gift and my friends Praisel & Ermy had organized with hubby to get me a nice perfume. I was really touched *biggrin* that even though one of them wasn't in Nigeria and the other was in another state, they still put so much effort to make my day and then i also got gifts in the new year from friend's that were outta town during my bday (This is a norm 'cos my birthday is around Christams period and a lot of people travel around this time). Every gal loves gifts so having gifts was great!!!lol. Hubby didn't get me a cake though and i was used to getting cakes even if its just cupcakes (yes i am a spoiled sweet-tooth) so that was a lil bummer. I let him know though and he made up for it during Val's day *biggrin*:D. He also got me an HTC Desire Eye as my belated birthday gift some months ago. I absolutely love the phone and i'm now an Android convert, gonna do a review on it soon

almost a smiley face breakfast

Long Distance Gift <3 td="">

I can't believe i'm now 25years old!!! getting older by the second, I can remember when i was 18yrs old. Oh well, we all gotta grow right, can't complain about where i am in life, gonna count my blessings and keep working towards my goals.

Husband and Wife are really just tags. We are having fun living together as two individuals who have made vows and are committed to each other. There is no hurry here to fit into roles or 'grow up', whether we like it or not we'll eventually have to so why rush it instead of enjoying the company of one another and our youth (isn't that one of the perks of marrying early? oh well *shrugs). I feel this is where most people miss it and get strung up while trying to live up to expectations that come with the newly acquired titles of Husband/Wife. I may be wrong but not getting caught up in the titles and expectations, myths etc. that come with them has been working great so far.

Toodles!XooX

HOW MUCH SHOULD A MAN EARN BEFORE GETTING MARRIED?

This was the title of the Poll being taken by The Naked Convos blog last Friday, followed by a short write-up and a range of figures to choose from.
The option i picked was  Any amount of money is okay (as this was more or less applicable in my life) and in the comment section i explained my point of view after reading comments from other readers.
This was my comment

"I agree with @toolsman, marriage is a game of compromise. A man can earn as little or as much as possible before getting married. As far as i’m concerned being ready for marriage and having stability has more to do with the mental maturity of both individuals and their will to make compromises towards a better future. How much do civil servants make and they are married with kids to support now and even back in the days and they make up a large part of the Nigerian middle class. If you marry the right partner, set priorities and you both align accordingly on the best path for growth, savings, investment and a better future, money becomes a small matter. Marriage is not about the wedding ceremony and that’s where most people miss it, we want the loud, splashy, costly bellanaija type weddings and end up paying 4it in frustration and sometimes in cash for the next few years into the marriage, not the best tone to start the foundation.

Contentment is scarce-constant comparison is now the norm, everyone is in the ‘his money is our money, my money is my money’ mentality, the men wanna be the ‘man of the house’-ego driven, YOLO lifestyles-spending all they earn now ‘cos who knows if we’ll see the rainy day if we save, vulnerabilty is now weakness, etc.Cut your coat according to your size and it’ll fit just fine till you get more material. a.k.a Have a budget and plan accordingly, work towards it, be a team and support one another and God go bless the rest. #shikena'."

You can check out the post on their blog.

Toodles!!XooX