Friday, 16 March 2012

I do

I love attending weddings!! especially traditional weddings. There's so much colorful procedure to follow regardless of the tribe. The highlight of church weddings on the other hand is the reception, that is definitely what seals the deal for the guests or for me at least. The venue, colorful decorations, food and drinks, setting, music and new twists the couples add to their ceremony. I love watching the couple dance too, whether dancing into the reception venue or when they dance with guests and get sprayed money. It is stressful when you're the brides friend o, especially when its dancing time because u have to keep bending down to pick the money the couple is sprayed 'cos it supposedly belongs to the bride. I also love all the drama of the couple feeding each other and cutting cake and the bride wearing the cap for her husband and all that charade (cos truth is that's not how they are gonna do it when they are left alone, its just tradition). Sadly i have attended majorly Yoruba traditional weddings where the groom comes with his friends to dobale (prostrate) for the bride's parents and so much money is spent before he gets to see his bride (you have to attend one to understand what i'm saying). For Igbo weddings i know the bride gets to collect a cup of palmwine from her father while her groom sits in the midst of a crowd and she has to search him out,kneel and give him the palmwine before they dance out together, i'm sure there's more to it but that's really the major part, i think. I happened to attend an Efik/Yoruba wedding once and it was delightful! The traditionaldancers had on beautiful attires and the dance was mesmerizing. Did i mention that another thing that gets me? The ATTIRES!! OMG!! the Aso-Oke's, the George's, the Damasks, the Ankara's the Coral beads, Walking Sticks,Fans,Red caps,etc you name it!! Its soo richly beautiful seeing everyone adorn their culture in attires! Then drummers also get me, i mean the local drummers who beat their talking drums and you cant help moving to the rhythm, you should see me at work shaking my ikebe and small bum bum to their Then the local bands too when they are good, they are real good and i can komole and pakuromo well well!
Then again weddings have a bittersweet feel, you reminisce on when u got married, if u are married and how things have been after marriage (its not always as rosy as it seems),even when rosy u think of the days of young love et al or you think about when u'l find ur own man or if u have ur man when u'll walk down the aisle with and have your own moment in the spotlight. Regardless though, its still always fun and an avenue to meet new people and make friends and rebond with forgotten family members. Any which ways its always a lovely occasion even if food doesn't reach you or family members are stressing you out (that's when its a family wedding) or there's drama going on about souvenirs (there always is) things are not going quite as planned. The koko is the bride and groom are now husband and wife and its all about them! I have been a bridesmaid to some friends and cousins of mine and apart from money spent on dresses, shoes and jewellry, i always manage to enjoy myself.
Sometimes i want a lavish wedding, other times not 'cos it can be some much stress worrying about many guest  (catering, sitting arrangement,souvenir distribution,etc). Sometimes i think i'd prefer a quiet 30 people outdoor wedding but then again i attend some lavish weddings and want one with all my heart! In reality though, i'm probably gonna end up having a big wedding, my mum comes from a large family and has about 20 siblings and 5 step-mums, her dad is late, my dad on the other hand is from a fairly large family too, with about 15 siblings and 2 step-mums! Now some of the siblings are married with kids i.e my cousins. This bunch of my mother and father's family is already a crowd thats minus the extended family o! My mum has bee in the civil service for more than 15 years so she has made her share of friends there, add those ones to those coming, then my dad's friends from the Banking Industry and Ikoyi club (he's been a member since before i could breathe). Then add the friends i've made from Secondary school to University to NYSC to Office,etc. That one huge number mehn! and we haven't even put my husband's people into consideration o! The only way i'm avoiding a huge wedding is if i do it in some place people can't get to easily like a far away island or something! Anyways, i will cross that bridge when i get to it. 

I attended my boss's daughter's wedding and enjoyed myself as it has been a while i attended a wedding and i'd been looking for an excuse to get all dolled up and rock my native attire and there's no beta place to look fine and be admired than at a wedding. Enjoy the pics. You can also view my Pinterest page ( for some pics of those really cool traditional attires i was talking about and you understand my love for them.

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